I’ve been hearing a lot of conversations around boundaries, specifically about how boundaries are often broken by family or clients.
As a business owner, you know how important it is to have solid boundaries in place. Likely, you work really hard at setting those boundaries.
Setting boundaries is easy … protecting your boundaries is difficult.
Protecting your boundaries can be very difficult, especially if you’re a pleaser and like to say yes to people. This is often because you might feel if you say no, they’ll think you’re not a caring, giving person.
Let’s face it, you want to be helpful to other people and you want to be available and accessible to the extent that you can be.
However, if you’re giving your time and attention to other people by often saying yes, it becomes difficult to also say yes to your own priorities.
What you’ll see happen in those circumstances is your priorities will get pushed to the bottom of the pile of tasks in your TO DO list. What follows is resentment bubbles up and burnout comes calling because you end up working all hours of the day and night to get everything done.
Let’s work on establishing some ways for you to protect the boundaries you’ve put in place without you feeling like you’re being negative or saying no all the time.
A client of mine shared this one powerful statement she uses to protect her boundaries … and I hope this will help you as well.
When someone asks her to do something that is outside of her boundaries or is shifting her away from her priorities, she asks herself …
“If I say yes to this, am I still honouring my vision?”
That simple phrase reframes the situation and allows you to see the bigger picture. And when you can see the bigger picture, you’re able to make a decision from a place of clarity and confidence.
In many cases you’ll find that saying yes to someone’s request pulls you away from your goals and priorities… and takes you off course, sending you down another path that moves you away from your vision.
The next time you’re feeling your boundaries are being broken, step back for just one minute, take some deep breaths and ask yourself …
“If I say yes to this distraction or this request, will this honour my vision?”
And let your answer be your guide.